Transferred Reality: The Freedom of Forgiveness

Most people don’t realize they are living in a reality they are 100% responsible for. You may believe the origin of your challenges lies in someone else’s behavior. It always seems to be about someone else — but it isn’t.

Forgiveness provides fresh perspective.
It is entirely for your own well-being.

When we are in judgment of others, we are really in judgment of ourselves. Our experience of the world is perceived through those judgments. This is why we can say that everyone is constantly creating their own reality.

Humans are trained to be competitive. We are conditioned to compare, to measure ourselves against one another. Our personal pain and sense of separation are born in this world of self-judgment.

Why?

Because we will always find ourselves lacking until we understand energy.

During COVID, I called a woman in Australia I hadn’t spoken to in a long while. Like me, she is the mother of five children, and I had always felt genuinely aligned with her.

We had a brief conversation. She ended it by saying she felt we could not be friends because she could not forgive me.

I asked her what I had done to offend her.

She could not tell me.

She was in pain.

I spent days wondering what it might have been before the real lesson came to me:

It did not matter what it was.

What mattered was that she was holding onto a judgment she had made about me years earlier. It was still a wound. It still had her distressed and unable to be a friend — over something I was completely unaware of.

That is when I truly understood why forgiveness is for the giver, not the receiver.

They may not even know they need forgiveness.

Forgiveness is reclaiming the power within you to release your own burden of judgment — toward others and toward yourself — and becoming free.

After that call, I searched my heart for those I had not forgiven and began doing that work. I thank her often in my thoughts for making this lesson so clear.

Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself. In doing so, you become easier to be around. Lighter. More lovable. More creative.

If you find yourself stuck in old patterns around forgiveness, burdened by unresolved wounds, it would be my honor to support your healing process. I bring wide experience and a deep understanding of this pathway to personal freedom.